AITA FOR TELLING MY MOM I WILL BUY HER A HOME BUT MY BROTHER CAN NOT LIVE THERE EVER?
A man in his mid-thirties faces a heart-wrenching dilemma: he wants to lift the burden of rising rents from his aging parents by buying them a home, yet he sets a firm boundary—his troubled older brother must not live there.
The scars of past neglect run deep, as the brother once prospered while the family struggled, and the mother's unwavering favoritism toward her son leaves the man feeling invisible and hurt.
Caught between love and resentment, he grapples with his mother’s guilt-inducing response, questioning if his desire to protect his parents from further pain makes him the villain.
His story is a poignant exploration of family loyalty, unspoken wounds, and the painful sacrifices made when love is not equally returned.
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The original poster is caught in a difficult situation where his generous offer to secure housing for his parents is directly challenged by his mother's insistence that the aid must extend to his brother.
This highlights a core conflict: the OP wants to provide necessary financial support based on his terms, while the mother views the help through the lens of equal, unconditional familial support, leading to guilt-tripping.
Given the history of perceived favoritism towards the brother, is the OP justified in placing a condition on his financial assistance to protect his own boundaries and emotional well-being, or does the act of helping parents necessitate unconditional support that overrides past grievances?
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