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AITA for not giving my girlfriend (25f) my dinner after I had already bought her dinner?

My girlfriend (25F) and I (29M) live in NYC and there's a popular app where you buy leftover restaurant food. Restaurants advertise "surprise bags" at a reduced price in order to reduce foodwaste. The customer doesn't know what they're getting until they pick the food up, but the cost at least 3x lower than the normal menu price. (EG if an entree is usually $24, the restaurant is allowed to charge $8 at most for it.) These are hit or miss - sometimes you get exactly what you want at a greatly reduced price, but sometimes you get something that you otherwise wouldn't have picked from the menu. I ordered a surprise bag from a barbecue place that I was picking up on the way home yesterday. I texted my girlfriend asking if she wanted one but she said no, she wasn't in the mood for barbecue. However, there was an indian restaurant right next door that also had surprise bags available on the app, so she ordered one of them. The barbecue was $12 and the indian food was $10. When I get home I unpack the meals to see what we got. I was psyched about my bag. Since I paid $12 I knew the value had to be at least $36, but honestly the platter looked a lot more expensive. This was a hit. (Keep in mind that we live in the west village, which is the most expensive neighborhood in the most expensive city in the US, so $36 for one meal is pretty typical.) There were burnt ends, ribs, pulled pork, baked beans, potato salad, bread, onions, and pickles. My girlfriend, however, was less lucky. Her surprise bag only had 6 different types of soup, half of them being variations on cauliflower soup. She was disappointed to say the least. She asked if we should share my barbecue and I said no, i'm hungry, I offered to buy you some already and you said no, so I'm going to devour it. She got mad and called me the asshole. I told her if she didn't want soup she should have ordered something specifically instead of using the surprise bag app. I then told her to just order something off a food delivery app. She said she didn't want to spend the money (another bit of context is I make a lot more money than her and pay all of our rent, I know she's running a bit of a lean financial picture right now.) I then tell her that if she doesn't want to pay for delivery, I'll walk to the bodega on our street and can buy her something there. (Another bit of context is that we live on a 4th floor walkup with no elevator and she broke her leg in a car accident a month ago, so it can be tough for her to get around.) She says she the grill is probably off there and all she wants is a hot meal. I tell her she has soup. Anyway, she thinks I'm the asshole. But in my defense: (1) I offered to buy her barbecue to begin with, which she declined. (2) she picked out her own food and I grabbed it for her on my way home (3) when she wasn't satisfied, I suggested two solutions (either ordering something from an app or going to a bodega) So, Reddit, AITA?

2025-11-20 20:17:42

Emily Rodriguez

AITA for taking legal action against my family?

I live abroad, and I just got back in town to visit my grandmother who is in the last stage of dementia and bedridden. My grandfather who is 92, is in good health and sound mind, so he acts as her POA, and we hired a family friend to be her caretaker. I recently found out that my grandmother’s rings were missing and when I did more research, I was told my cousin, her great niece, had taken them, after being given them by my grandmothers caretaker who claimed she got them from my grandfather… because she has my grandma in some recording saying she can have them when she dies. Well, my grandmother is not dead, my grandmother told a lot of people they could get a ring one day, but most importantly, she is not in good mental state and my cousins are nowhere in her will. My grandfather is very upset about this, including her missing wedding ring, and even a ring that my late father purchased for her before he died. My cousin will not return them because of this verbal confirmation she claims she received to take all of my grandmother’s jewelry, and I’m a bit irate. I contacted lawyers yesterday, but because she has a nasty tone about it and refuses to give them back to my grandfather, I’m ready to call the police and file a stolen property report. This will obviously cause much tension… AITA?

2025-11-20 20:17:35

Michael Chen

AITA for revealing my “sister’s” truth to a family member that made everyone lose their shit on my parents and her?

She (40f) has been ignoring me (21M) for 5 months since finding out. That ”Grace” is not my sister. She’s my biological mom and after finding this out my whole life’s been a fucking mess. My “parents” pretended to be my parents because from what they told me it was better that way for everyone since Grace wasn’t ready to be a mom. I’ve been wanting to hear her side ever since but she decided to block me. My “parents” have talked to her because Grace wants to drop this and not being this to her husband. They live in another state so they’re not close at all but she basically didn’t want this getting to her husband. I kept asking her to pls just sit down with me once to hear her side. But she’s been silence ever since. Why I’m asking if I’m an asshole is because the other weekend me and my cousin had beers at his house. Me being drunk af I started crying about everything going, he asked me what’s wrong and I told him everything. Shit BLEW UP. Nobody, *nobody* in my family knew about this. He texted his mom that same night. Nxt morning I’m waking up to everyone blowing up my phone even my “parents” too. Now everybody in the family knows and they’ve even reached out to Grace on my behalf telling her if I wanna talk to her then she owes me at least that. This whole thing couldn’t be kept a secret from her husband he knows now too because she called my “parents” crying because they had a big fight. He’s so mad he’s staying at his parents. She’s saying it’s my fault now for not letting it go. And now it seem like everything in her life is falling apart. Including my parents because everyone’s coming down on them too for lying this whole time. I know none of that would’ve happened if it hadn’t been for me saying something. But also feel that after being the one who got lied to I was owed some answers too. AITA?

2025-11-20 20:17:34

Sarah Mitchell

AITA for reporting my son's therapist for sharing private information with his stepdad?

My m36 son's (14) dog passed away recently. I signed him up with a therapist because his dog's death has literally left him unable to speak. He's been in therapy for 2 weeks now. 2 days ago, My son called crying saying his stepdad punished him by taking his bicycle and selling it for no reason. I was livid. I went to have a word with his stepdad and he told me that there WAS a reason and that is the fact that my son "badmouthed" him to the therapist, and claimed that he treated the dog poorly. I was floored at this. I had an argument with him an asked how the hell he knew and told him to prove that my son said all that. He showed me texts betwen him and my son's therapist. So basically...the therapist had been giving out private info about a bunch of stuff my son talked about in therapy. I was even more floored. I went straight to that therapist and we had a huge argument. I told him I was going to report him after he defended himself saying the reason he gave my son's stepdad this info was because of concern as "a parent". I said that I don't give a shit what the justification was, and went on with my report. He tried to talk about how he felt for my son's stepdad and his concerns as a "parent" so he didn't think he did anything wrong. My son's mom called after she found out about the report and she she blew up at me on the phobe calling me a controlling asshole for what I did. I ignored her calls after that but my own wife thought I made a hasty decision and that the real problem was with my son's stepdad not the therapist.

2025-11-20 20:17:34

Emily Rodriguez

AITA for not wanting to support my boyfriend's early retirement?

My boyfriend has just paid off his mortgage and now wants to take early retirement on £8k per annum. The only way he can afford to do this would be for me to move in with him and work full time so that the bills can be paid and he can do what he wants in his spare time. I am fifty and my own pension fund is not great so I don't expect to be able to retire for the next twenty years. Am I being unreasonable in not wanting to uproot my life, and that of my son, and wanting to pursue my own career on my own terms? I am planning on going traveling while working once my son leaves home, and saving as much money as possible, not supporting my boyfriend who has never supported me. Am I an asshole for putting myself first (as my parents and boyfriend seem to think) or should my boyfriend re think his situation? I don't have any real advantage in doing this as my boyfriend is leaving the house to his stepson even if I do move in with him, and I would have to get rid of all my stuff as there's no room for it at his place.....

2025-11-20 20:17:27

James Anderson

AITA for stopping my parents from paying for my sister's IVF and telling her she can't afford to have a kid

I am M23. My sister is F28, married to M30 for 6 years. My sister has been trying for a baby for about 3 years now, without success. 18 months ago she and her husband came to my parents and asked if we'd finance an IVF treatment. My parents have some savings separate from retirement and agreed to pay for it, and I even pitched in a few hundred dollars to show my support even though I didn't have a lot of savings, having just started work after graduation. Unfortunately, the IVF failed. Yesterday, my sister and BIL came over again for dinner. Afterwards my sister said she wanted to try another round of IVF and asked my parents if they would pay for it again. I could tell my parents looked hesitant but they agreed because my sister was crying. At this point I stood up and said it's not right for her to ask again for our parents' money for something that didn't work before and may not work again. We argued a bit and I admit that things got heated and we had a big fight. She yelled at me that it was none of my business. I told her she if she can't pay for the IVF then she needs to accept that she can't afford a kid. She told me to get out, but I refused. My parents were trying to calm us down, my mom started telling me that it's not my money, to which I replied that it's basically a gift to one child and not the other and that it was only fair that I be given a similar amount of money as what they would spend on my sister. My sister started complaining that it's not a gift, it's a treatment for a medical condition and if I'd expect payment if she had cancer and my parents paid for chemo. I told her not being able to have a kid poses no threat to her life the way cancer does and it's a completely disingenuous comparison. My dad finally stood up and yelled at us both to shut up and sit down. Then he told my sister that they already paid for one and I had a point that continuing to pay for it would be unfair. He said he's very sorry for what she's going through but they need to accept things how they are. My sister started crying again and her husband (who had been quiet and looking uncomfortable the whole time) took her and left. Today my sister sent me some texts calling me an asshole for sticking my nose in her business and keeping her from having a baby. AITA?

2025-11-20 20:17:23

Emily Rodriguez

AITA for assuming my friend was keeping her partner away because I didn’t like him when actually he didn’t like me?

I (38f) have known ‘Ally’ (40f) for 15 years. We first met at work when were single and the youngest people there. We became good friends and socialised together and still do. Ally then met her partner ‘Matt’ who she is still with years later. He does not share her interests. He is an avid football supporter (UK) and very anti the rival football team. Even when he doesn’t go to watch matches live, he watches at the pub with male friends. He plays sport with his friends. She’s a football widow. She likes going to the theatre and to dinner. He’ll go to dinner with her but doesn’t much enjoy the theatre unless it’s a serious play (she likes musicals) and she ends up going with female friends. She says she doesn’t mind, they aren’t joined at the hip and she has plenty of friends and relatives who enjoy going to the theatre with her and that she doesn’t want to go to football. I wonder… I am known for being brutally honest. When she introduced me to Matt, she asked my opinion and I gave it. I didn’t really see them together. I didn’t like that he drinks and swears. He has a professional job but isn’t very ‘refined’ unlike her and I found him a bit difficult to connect to. At the time she was hurt but got over it and generally just engineered it so I never really saw him. He was always ‘busy’ when I organised a party etc. They now have 2 young boys and he looks after them when she comes out with her friends. TBH more recently my opinion of him has improved. He seems to be a really good daddy to the boys and they clearly adore him. They are also football mad! It took me longer to meet my SO ‘Edward’ but I now have and we have just got engaged. Ally and Matt both attended our engagement party. Edward actually also likes football and ended up getting on really well with Matt. Later I asked Ally if she’d be up for doing something as couples, as Edward and Matt got on well. She was non-committal. A few weeks later I tried to arrange something and she accepted for herself but “Matt was busy”. I explained I wanted to do something with the 4 of us when he was free. She kept stalling. I pushed it (maybe I shouldn’t have) and she said it wasn’t a good idea because he and I didn’t get on. I said it was ok, I’d changed my opinion more recently and Edward liked him. She looked surprised and then awkwardly let me know it was because he didn’t really like me! She “thought I knew”! I didn’t and I was upset - this was news. I asked her why. She was embarrassed but said he found me judgmental and “too much”. I don’t even know what that means. A few other examples as well! I was hurt and told her I had assumed she kept us apart because I didn’t like him not the reverse. She said that we didn’t get on so what difference did it make. I’m beyond hurt and did react badly and told her some home truths about him. I regret this now and tried to apologise but she won’t return my calls. AITA?

2025-11-20 20:17:21

Rachel Thompson

AITA for asking my wife to pay her fair share?

I (M 39) have been married to my wife Stacey (F 30) for 5 years and we have 2 children together. I also share 3 children with my ex wife Hannah (F 37). Ever since Stacey and I got together she has made it very clear to me that my 3 children are mine and Hannah's responsibility, not hers. I pay Hannah child support every month. Stacey has demanded that I give her the same amount of money each month for our joint children's expenses to keep things "fair." I also pay for half of our joint household expenses (mortgage, utilities, food) and my own car. Stacey pays for the majority of expenses for our children. Stacey has never taken issue with caring for my children from my previous marriage; she picks them up from school and takes them to activities. However, anytime she purchases anything for them, she immediately sends me a Venmo request and demands I cover all expenses related to children that are "not hers." During a recent family vacation, she demanded I pay for half the portion for my children and all of the portion for Hannah's children. To add insult to injury, she recently started contributing money to college funds for her kids, while I have nothing saved for my older kids' college. When I discussed this, Stacey agreed, but only if I put the exact same amount into college funds for her children. I told Stacey I need her to start paying her fair share of expenses around the household, as I cannot afford child support, household expenses, and all these miscellaneous expenses for my older kids. She makes more than me and could easily afford it. Stacey became very upset, took our children to her parent's house, and I have not heard from her in a day and a half.

2025-11-20 20:17:20

James Anderson

AITA for refusing to pay the medical bills for my roommate's son after he had an allergic reaction eating my cookies?

My roommate's son, Sam (4M) is allergic to strawberries. He gets an allergic reaction only if he eats them. I recently made a batch of strawberry shortcake cookies. Some of them were in a jar in the top shelf. She mostly works remotely but sometimes she will have to go to the office for a few hours (1-2 max). As I always work from home and the kid is really sweet, I don't mind babysitting. One day last week, I woke up to Sam screaming/crying bloody murder. When I ran to the kitchen, it was very obvious that he was experiencing an allergic reaction. It didn't seem severe but his face was red and he had the cookies in his hand. I freaked out and called 911. They took the kid to the hospital. Turns out, she banged on my door and yelled that she had to go to the office urgently and asked me to take care of Sam for an hour. He was already fed and all I had to do was look after him. I guess I was deep asleep and did not hear her. Sam was playing in the living room, saw the cookies and went for it. My roommate is now mad at me because 1. I was supposed to look after him. 2. I called 912 instead of just using the EpiPen which is kept in the living room. In the past, the banging-on-the-door thing has worked (a couple of times) but this time I genuinely didn't hear her. She has also explained about the EpiPen and how it works, but I freaked out and my forgot about that. She now expects me to pay for the medical bill. I have obviously refused to. She is going to go broke and she is blaming me. Yeah yeah. The real asshole is the American Healthcare system. Still, who is right here? Aita?

2025-11-20 20:17:14

Sarah Mitchell

AITA for how I told my neighbor to stop being a busybody?

I live next to this guy William and his wife and daughters. He's a total busybody; I swear he's watching and commenting on everything I do. If I have friends over, he'll watch from the porch and out the windows. He'll comment later on how many people I have over, how late I have them over, etc. Like complaining I had a party of 7 over till 1 am. If my grass gets too long, he'll comment on how I need to spend a day a week mowing; I can't keep "going out 3 nights in a row." If there are cars parked in the street, he'll know which ones are friends there to see me. I know he knows because he goes right to mine and asks me to have my friends move their cars. If I BBQ he'll complain about the smoke smells, and how nobody needs to be barbecuing for 3 hours. Overall, I can tell by the stuff he says that he's watching me and my house wayyy more than anyone has any right to. Knowing when I'm there or not, who's there with me, how long, etc. I've never noticed stuff like that about my neighbors, I mind my business. Anyway, it's kind of uncomfortable. I've tried to be accommodating, "Ok, I'll move the cars. OK I'll be done barbecuing soon." I've also tried to ask for more privacy in the weirder conversations. "My friends and I don't really like it when someone's watching our comings and goings; would you drop this?" But I honestly I'm getting pretty bothered by it. So this time, when he mentioned I need to move my trash cans inside sooner after the garbage truck comes; I told him off. I said "I want you to know, I really don't like being watched like this. It bothers me." He acted confused. I said "Look, I'm a woman living alone and it's kind of unsettling." He acted confused still, and kind of defensive. I said "You're a father of two daughters. Think about if they came to you and said that a man they didn't know or like was watching to see when they're home or not, which of the other girls are their little friends, remembering which bikes their little friends ride and recognizing them on sight.. Watching when they're out in the yard, and what they're doing there. Think of how you'd feel." He got upset at what I said and was saying "That's different!!" I was like "It's NOT different. That's how I feel. I'm asking you to empathize here, to understand how it feels to be watched 24/7 and not be OK with it! How that seems to have made you feel is exactly how I feel!" After that argument, he stormed off and has seemed to leave me alone for a few days. But I'm wondering if I crossed a line, what I said seemed to make him really angry but I didn't know how else to get him to understand. AITA here?

2025-11-20 20:17:09

Michael Chen

AITA for showing up to a job interview with purple hair that I've had since I was 20?

I'm 34 years old and have had some flavor of purple hair since I was 20. The closest approximate color I can give to you is if you search "black cherry hair" and imagine it a little more purple. At 34, I'm not exactly new to the job force. One of my biggest stipulations for a job is that I fit in as I am, and that I don't work for a company that's so uppity my hair would be an issue. I've never had a problem until now. I'm like 40% satisfied with my current job, and have been seeking something new. I've been on a few interviews to test the waters, and it's been pretty great so far. Until a week ago, when I ended up going to an interview at a company that's got a much different atmosphere than I expected from the phone interview and all that. The woman doing the interview kept staring at my hair with a look of disgust. A few others did the same. It was very obvious I was not an, ahem, culture fit. No biggie, you're not always going to be, you know? So I just shrugged it off and finished the interview. A day later, they called to let me know I hadn't gotten the job. I was polite and cordial on the phone. But the woman was very aggressive and downright bitchy to me, and said "And for the record, just a piece of advice for you in the future? Showing up to a professional interview with clownish hair is not going to get you very far." I said, "I think my 15 years in the X industry with an exemplary track record says otherwise. But thank you for letting me know that I was correct in understanding the company is not a good culture fit for me." She snorted in that haughty-bitch way, and said, "Well, it obviously doesn't say that much, otherwise you wouldn't be interviewing for a job." I said "Ok" and moved on with my life -- only to get a pretty nasty email from the company telling me that due to my inappropriate comments to the interviewer on the phone that day, they would ask me to please refrain from applying for a position with the company in the future. I think this is just a ridiculous case of someone being super tight, but AITA for having purple hair?

2025-11-20 20:17:09

James Anderson

AITA Changing someone’s instagram password for using my email

I got an email that “my” account name had been changed. Since I didn’t have an account under the supposed name I checked it out. It wasn’t my account so I dm’ed the other person, “Hi it’s actually [name]. Do you want to change your email?” To which he responded, “No I’m also actually [name] bitch.” Now this user appeared to be a kid so I decided to use this as a learning opportunity. I changed his password and deleted his recovery phone number. I then gave him a bio which said, “dm me @[my account] with your email so I can change it for you.”

2025-11-20 20:17:08

Sarah Mitchell

AITA for telling my mom I think it’s disgusting she is having another kid

I feel like I was in the right but my aunt, three of my siblings think I’m an asshole. I’m 31 and a female and I’m the oldest of ten kids my parents had me at 15,16 respectively. They both dropped out of high school and they got married when my mom was 17. My dad joined the military and they had my next sibling on my moms 18th birthday. My brother is 28, the other kids range in age from 10-27. I grew up taking care of my siblings, my mom and dad expected me to basically help raise their younger kids. Because of this I have no interest in having kids myself. My 23 year old sister pretty much took over my role and still lives at home. My mom is 46 she homeschools the 10,12,14, and 17 year olds. She has never worked although she doesn’t do chores or clean the kids chores cover that. Her and my dad bought a fixer upper he planned on fixing up when he retires in a few years, they plan on turning into an organic farm. However now that’s all up in the air as my mom just announced this weekend she is pregnant again. She thought she was suffering from pre menopause..nope she’s pregnant. Thing is she also admitted she had not been taking her BC for the last year and had hoped to have one more child. I lost my cool because my dad has a bad back and he should have retired this year. Now with the new baby he is saying he may have to work another ten years. I told my mom she’s disgusting for doing that, and she had ten kids that’s plenty enough. She burst into tears and ran out of the room, my dad told me to leave unless I was going to apologize and my 20 year old brother and 23,25 year old sisters told me I was an asshole. My 28 year old brother and my gf said I maybe could have said it nicer but they think it’s messed up. So reddit was I the asshole?

2025-11-20 20:17:00

Rachel Thompson

AITA for demanding my stepdaughter to pay for my daughter's wedding dress that she ruined?

I'm a mother of 2. My biological Daughter (22) and my stepdaughter (23). Both girls grew up together and my husband passed away years ago. My stepdaughter has a competitive personality. She's always in a race with my daughter in everything from simple achievements like getting higher grades to bigger achievements like graduating, owning a car, getting engaged first. My daughter doesn't care about being first or last, not only is she not the competitive type but she's also non-confrontational, so I sometimes find it necessary to step in and tell my stepdaughter to stop making her sister feel like she's in a race with her and complaining about stuff my daughter got to do first. My daughter got engaged when her stepsister had already been engaged for 8 months. The problem began when my daughter announced her wedding date despite being engaged for just 2 months. My stepdaughter didn't like that and tried to get ahead and plan her wedding as soon as possible but couldn't find a venue with a date earlier than my daughter. My stepdaughter tried convincing my daughter to slow down and put off the wedding but it's impossible since everything has been set. My daughter is getting married at the end of Aug. She bought a $700 wedding dress that me and my stepdaughter saw. My stepdaughter got mad and had a meltdown and ghosted us for a week, then came to visit while my daughter was staying with me acting calm and nice. She excused herself to the bathroom when we had dinner, then came back and said her fiancé was outside and she needed to leave. It was strange that she left in a hurry. My daughter entered her room and found her wedding dress cut to pieces from below to the waist. We were in dismay; we figured it was my stepdaughter who did this since she couldn't do anything about the fact my daughter was getting married before her. My daughter broke down. I confronted my stepdaughter in front of her fiancé, and she denied it and yelled at me. I told her I knew she did it and handed her the bill for the dress she ruined out of spite and demanded she pay for a new one. Her fiancé picked an argument and got everyone involved after I threatened with court. My stepdaughter then apologized blaming it on mental issues but said she can't use the wedding money to pay my daughter $700. They tried talking me into paying then they pay me in a matter of months or asking my daughter to postpone until after my stepdaughter's wedding, but I didn't accept since my daughter then will have to lose more. It's been days and they're trying to negotiate. (In case it's relevant, the wedding dress was paid for by me as a gift for my daughter, and because the damage took place at my house, then I feel I should be doing something about it).

2025-11-20 20:16:58

James Anderson

AITA for pulling a harmless prank on a guy who has a crush on me?

This actually happened on Valentine’s day but I’m still getting shit for it. Please tell me if I’m TA. I’m really good friends with this guy (we’re both 20) and we pull little pranks on each other all the time. We both started working at the same place so we see each other a lot more. Around early February we were hanging out one night and he got very drunk (he normally doesn’t get that drunk). He started awkwardly confessing his crush and telling me how much I mean to him etc. I thought he was just messing around but he said the same things the next day fully sober. I told him that I’m not interested and he didn’t look very upset. He actually took it very well and we talked about something else afterwards. (Fyi - all of my friends said that he was seriously upset about the rejection but that wasn’t my experience). On Valentine’s Day we were on our lunch break and I told him that we needed to talk.I told him that I really thought about his confession the other night and wanted to tell him something important since it’s Vday. He panicked and asked if I’m serious. I said yeah and asked if he wants a kiss. EVERYBODY knows that it’s the oldest and lamest trick in the world. But he fell for it HARD and got soooo excited. He was actually about to kiss me but then I pulled a Hershey’s Kiss chocolate out my pocket and offered it. At first he didn’t get it but then he understood. He didn’t speak to me for the rest of our shift. I told him to lighten up but he straight up ignored me. When we texted later that night he was giving me 1 word answers. I personally think that’s an overreaction. After that day he stopped hanging out with our friend group and barely texted anybody. Two weeks went by and our friends got really concerned. I told them about the incident and they started roasting me hard. I have never received so much shit for something so little. They all agreed that I’m an asshole and shattered his confidence. I’m not sure if I agree. First of all, we prank each other frequently. He knows that I’m not serious about anything 99% of the time. Secondly, how could you fall for the Hershey’s Kiss line? My friends still bring it up occasionally and say that I’m horrible for what I did. He hasn’t talked to me at all since that day. I’m pretty sure he forgot about it by now. So am I the bad guy?

2025-11-20 20:16:56

Emily Rodriguez

AITA for letting my Aunt and Cousins arrested?

I was born in a poor Catholic community in South East Asia where 'family' is above all else. Growing up my parents drilled in my head that education will get you a good job and possibly out of poverty. Growing up cousins will always bully me for being good in school and for being gay. Aunts and Uncles will oftentimes mock, embarass and hit in the head to try get out the gay in me. They will insult me at every opportunity for dreaming of finishing college and becoming something in life. Back in 2008 at 16yrs old senior in HS I won a national competition funded by a charity and the winner will have the opportunity to study abroad. I got accepted in a London university due to my grades. During my college years I work 3 part time jobs to be able to feed myself and send some money back home to my parents. Back in 2010 I met my husband in the bakery that I work part time. My husband came from old French money. During my college years he oftentimes ask me to move in with him and he will support me financially. I always declined, I want to make it on my own. Eventually I graduated 2012 and we got married back in 2014. Currently I (29M) and my husband (37M) lives in France since 2014. Back in 2017 with the help of my husband's family I'm able to move my parents and two brothers here as well. Since then relatives been hounding me to do the same for them, honestly I don't want to. Behind my back my parents asked a favor to my MIL to help 2 cousin's (35F, 25F) and a Aunt (50F). June 2019 cousin's and aunt were able to get here and had a hard time getting jobs since none of them were able to finish HS. My MIL and FIL hired them to be extra help mainly with cleaning, I am against this since I know them and I am sure they will do something stupid. And I'm not wrong. Items start to disappear in my in-laws house, this has never been an issue in the past. One rainy November day I received a call form my MIL. She informed me multiple number of designer handbags and jewelry went missing and Aunt and cousins were missing as well. Police were called and they were arrested in a train station 2 hrs outside of Paris with multiple pawnshop receipts, cash and train tickets going to Milan. We are able to collect all the stolen items and my MIL filed lawsuits against them. My MIL is a wonderful woman and my parents are deeply embarrassed and apologized to her multiple times. Relatives are now asking me to talk to her to drop the lawsuits. Honestly I don't want to, and it's up to the French police. They are now calling me ungrateful and useless since I don't want anything with it. I feel like I am turning my back to 'family' and I fell horrible about it. AITA?

2025-11-20 20:16:54

Michael Chen

AITA for not bringing my mom with me on vacation because she doesnt give credit where credit is due?

We are from the Philippines and my mom is extremely religious. I am a closeted atheist since I was about 13. My mom had quite a tough-ish life due to (mostly) her bad decisions like not being good with money, refusing every good opportunity that came her way because she believed in "signs from God". While I told her it's a very good decision to sell, since person x comes by ANYWAY she follows her "sign". She is a single mom and I am her only child. So I always dreamt of giving her a good life. I learned to not follow her mistakes, and I suppose this is why I became an atheist. I worked extremely hard because I wanted a different life from that of my mom. 25 yrs later, I became quite successful. Bought her a house, a car and an allowance each month. She never once thanked me. Instead, she thanked God. I ignored this at first, but then she got quite extreme. I mentioned to her that I did work pretty hard to get here, and she says things like "This is God's reward to me, all those years of following him. I deserve/earned this" and "It was through my prayers and faith that He listened and gave you the strength to push through. If you think this was purely because of you, you are sorely mistaken!" I am going to Australia for a holiday, I wanted to take her and she said something like "praise be to Him! He loves me so much, he knew I deserve to have a vacation!" I don't know why, but it rubbed me the wrong way and told her "nevermind, I'm going alone." She is upset, asked why and I said that I am so sick and tired of hearing her praise some Being for my hard work and love. She said I am being ungrateful and delusional if I think my success was because of "just me working hard"

2025-11-20 20:16:47

Michael Chen

AITA for leaving my husband at the airport after he tried to make me carry his luggage?

My husband (32) was on a business trip that last for 4 weeks. Once his got back he told me to come pick him up. I drove to the airport and got inside the get him from there. The second he saw me he let go of his two big bags and started walking. I tried to get him to stop but he told me to get the bags and follow him. Note that I'm 12 weeke pregnant but he tells me that I'm still "in good shape". I told him those bags were to heavy for me to carry but he went ona rant about how exhausted he was from sitting in that plane for 4hrs straight. his arms, neck, legs and back hurt. I refused to take a step ahead with those bags and told him it's his luggage so he gets to deal with it. His tone got more tense and told me that I was being annoying. I told him to get someone to carry his bags for him and he replied "I already have one and it's you. come on I'm so tired of standing" then kept walking and ignoring me. I left his luggage where he left and walk straight past him. He freaked out and started yelling at me to get back. I walked out and got into my car and drove off because I was literally having none of it. I felt so upset and humiliated. He got home by a taxi but was livid at me for leaving him at the airport just because he asked for my help. He also said I embarrassed him and made a scene and overreacted big time. He went upstairs and stayed in the bedroom after the shower. He is still upset with me saying I reacted poorly and in an unsupportive; inappropriate manner.

2025-11-20 20:16:44

Sarah Mitchell