AITAH for refusing to go to my brother’s wedding because he’s marrying my high school bully?
Discovering that her older brother’s fiancée was the very girl who tormented her throughout high school shattered her world.
The memories of relentless bullying—the cruel mockery, the damaging rumors, the fake notes—rushed back with a painful intensity, reopening wounds she thought had begun to heal.
The girl who had made her life unbearable now stood smiling in engagement photos, a symbol of a past she desperately wanted to forget. Her brother’s insistence that she move on, that this person had changed, only deepened her inner conflict.
To him, it was a simple story of growth and forgiveness, but for her, it was a haunting reminder of the scars left behind.
The invitation to the wedding felt like a demand to bury her pain and pretend the past never happened—a test of her strength and resolve she wasn’t sure she was ready to face.
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The original poster (OP) is faced with a painful conflict: celebrating a significant family event versus protecting their deeply held emotional safety regarding a past bully.
The OP's firm decision not to attend the wedding directly clashes with the brother's expectation of unconditional support for his happiness.
Is the OP justified in prioritizing their severe past trauma and emotional well-being over attending their brother's wedding, or does the brother's desire for family unity on his wedding day outweigh the impact of past high school bullying?
The Internet Sounded Off — and It Got Loud:
Support, sarcasm, and strong words — the replies covered it all. This one definitely got people talking.