Aitah for not telling my wife my cousin is insanely wealthy?
The user (31M) describes his relationship with his wife (34F), his wealthy cousin (33F), and her husband (35M).
The cousin inherited a substantial amount of money when she was young, which she has used to support her family's education and fund significant community projects, though she and her husband maintain a modest lifestyle despite their wealth, running a successful farm and holding respectable jobs.
The user's wife, a nurse pract*tioner who earns a very good income, is described as prideful and frequently discusses her earnings.
The conflict arose when the wife attended a wedding at the cousin's home, realizing for the first time the extent of the cousin's wealth, which the wife seemingly had always underestimated, believing the cousin had only a 'hobby farm.' The wife is now angry, claiming the user embarrassed her by not disclosing the cousin's wealth beforehand, leading the user to question if he was wrong for not informing her and for telling her she embarrassed herself.
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The central conflict revolves around the wife's pride and her need to perceive herself as financially superior, which was challenged by the reality of the cousin's hidden wealth and understated lifestyle.
The user is caught between protecting his wife's feelings and asserting that her reaction and subsequent actions reflect poorly on her own perception of community standing.
The core question is whether the user acted inappropriately by not proactively informing his wife about the cousin's financial status, or if the wife is at fault for feeling embarrassed by the revelation and judging others based on superficial appearances.
How should the user navigate his wife's pride in light of verifiable community evidence that contradicts her assumptions about status?
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