AITA for telling my MOH to stop attacking me after I told her it'd suck to cancel two large life plans for her baby shower?

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Fifteen years of friendship stood on the edge of a painful test as the Maid of Honor’s unexpected pregnancy birthed a clash of loyalties.

Separated by distance but bound by memories, the bride faced a heart-wrenching dilemma: to honor her closest friend’s joyous new chapter or to uphold promises made to others whose celebrations now collided in an impossible tangle of dates.

The tension simmered quietly in the group chat, a digital battleground where personal sacrifices and unspoken resentments threatened to unravel the bonds that once felt unbreakable.

Every word weighed heavy with the fear of being labeled inconsiderate, as the bride grappled with the impossible choice between supporting her Maid of Honor and preserving cherished friendships that, like fragile threads, risked snapping under the pressure.

AITA for telling my MOH to stop attacking me after I told her it'd suck to cancel two large life plans for her baby shower?
‘AITA for telling my MOH to stop attacking me after I told her it'd suck to cancel two large life plans for her baby shower?’

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This one sparked a storm. The comments range from brutally honest to surprisingly supportive — and everything in between.

The Original Poster (OP) is deeply conflicted, feeling hurt and unappreciated because their Maid of Honor (MOH) is insisting on scheduling her baby shower on a date that forces the OP to cancel two significant prior commitments involving travel and other friends' major life events (a wedding and another planned trip).

The central conflict lies in the MOH's perceived lack of reciprocity and her dismissive att*tude towards the effort required by the OP, contrasting sharply with the MOH's own demand for flexibility from others.

Given the MOH's insistence that her needs supersede the OP's existing plans, the core question remains: Is it reasonable to expect a close friend, especially one traveling for a major event, to cancel two pre-arranged, significant commitments for a baby shower, even when acknowledging the friend's pregnancy excitement and hormonal state?