AITA for donating s**rm to one friend but not another?
He never imagined that his decision to donate s**rm would weave him so deeply into the fabric of his friends' lives.
As a gay man who cherishes the q**erness that surrounds him, he found himself honored and emotionally moved when his closest friend M and her wife asked him to help bring their child into the world.
That baby girl, though not his, became a beacon of enduring love and connection—a symbol of chosen family and unwavering support.
Now, faced with a new request from another dear friend and their partner, he stands at the crossroads of generosity and personal boundaries.
Their hope, inspired by his earlier act of kindness, stirs a powerful mix of emotions within him—pride, love, and the complex reality of what it means to give life without ever wanting his own. This is a story about the profound bonds forged not by biology alone, but by heart and soul.
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The original poster (OP) is grappling with a conflict between their stated openness to s**rm donation for loved ones and their personal judgment regarding the readiness of one specific couple (J and their partner) to parent.
While the OP felt honored by the request, their decision to decline, based on concerns about the friends' relationship ins**bility, caused significant offense and tension within their social circle.
Given that the OP has already es**blished a pattern of willingness to donate to other trusted q**er friends, the central question becomes: Does a person who volunteers to be a known donor retain the right to exercise personal judgment regarding the s**bility and fitness of the intended parents, even when exercising that judgment causes deep hurt and social backlash?
Users Wasted No Time Telling It Like It Is:
Support, sarcasm, and strong words — the replies covered it all. This one definitely got people talking.