AITA for refusing to consider being an organ donor for my abusive father even after my siblings begged me to save him?
He carries the weight of a childhood marred by cruelty, a relentless storm of a**se that his siblings never had to face.
Though they share the same blood, his father’s love was reserved for them, leaving him isolated in a shadow of pain and neglect—his mother’s silence a quiet betrayal that deepened his scars.
Now, faced with his father’s urgent need for a life-saving transplant, he stands at a crossroads of raw, conflicting emotions—torn between the instinct to hate and the complex reality of family.
The past’s wounds ache fiercely, yet the future demands a reckoning with the man who once broke him.
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The original poster (OP) faces a profound ethical dilemma rooted in past trauma: whether to potentially save the life of an abusive father by donating an organ, primarily to ease the emotional burden on their younger, non-a**sed siblings.
The central conflict is the OP's need to protect their own well-being and maintain boundaries against the deep, understandable grief and desire of their siblings to keep their father alive.
Given the severe, lifelong a**se inflicted by the father, is the OP morally obligated, even implicitly, to undergo medical testing for a transplant to satisfy the emotional needs of their siblings, or does the right to self-preservation and freedom from past a**sers supersede all familial obligation in this medical context?
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NTA.