AITA for telling my kids stepmother she doesn't get to make rules for my home in front of my former ILs?

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A mother watches helplessly as her two young sons are caught between worlds — the fractured remnants of a family torn apart by betrayal and the rigid expectations imposed by their father and his new wife.

The children’s quiet resistance to activities they do not enjoy becomes a powerful symbol of their struggle for autonomy in the midst of imposed conformity and fractured loyalties.

Tensions simmer beneath the surface, fueled by lingering bitterness and divided loyalties that pit a loving grandmother against a strict new stepmother, all while the boys stand at the crossroads of childhood innocence and imposed duty.

This is a story of fractured bonds, silent battles, and the desperate hope of a mother fighting to honor her children’s true selves amidst the chaos.

AITA for telling my kids stepmother she doesn't get to make rules for my home in front of my former ILs?
‘AITA for telling my kids stepmother she doesn't get to make rules for my home in front of my former ILs?’

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The original poster (OP) is facing a direct conflict regarding parenting decisions that cross over between households, specifically concerning extracurricular activities scheduled during their court-ordered time.

The OP firmly asserted their boundary against the ex-wife making rules during the OP's parenting time, which led to significant anger from the ex-wife and criticism from the ex-husband.

Is the OP justified in immediately confronting the ex-wife publicly about setting rules on their parenting time to protect the children from the conflict, or should the OP have waited to address the issue privately with the ex-husband to maintain a less volatile co-parenting relationship?