AITA for wanting to hire a full-time maid even though my fiancé thinks it’s unnecessary?
In the quiet chaos of their shared life, she carried the weight of balance—between demanding careers, household duties, and the love that once made cooking a joy.
The relentless fur of their two dogs mirrored the growing mess inside her spirit, where exhaustion threatened to drown the warmth they built together.
Her plea for help, a simple request for daily support, was met not with understanding but with unexpected resistance.
In that moment, the fragile line between partnership and solitude blurred, revealing the unspoken struggles beneath their seemingly equal life.
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The original poster is experiencing severe burnout due to taking on the majority of domestic labor, despite an equal financial contribution to the household.
Her central conflict is the fiancé's refusal to support her request for increased paid domestic help, which she views as necessary for her well-being, interpreting his objection as a lack of willingness to share the burden or value her workload.
Given the es**blished financial equality and the OP's burnout, is it reasonable for her to unilaterally decide to hire daily cleaning help to maintain her work-life balance, or does her fiancé have a valid point that the financial ability to outsource ch**es does not negate personal responsibility for basic household upkeep?
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