AITA for insisting my husband calls our daughter by her given name?
The original poster (OP), a 30-year-old woman from Japan, and her 35-year-old European husband recently welcomed their first child, a daughter named Hana. Before the birth, the couple discussed names extensively.
The husband strongly favored the name Lily, a name he had always envisioned for a daughter. The OP expressed discomfort with Lily because, due to her Japanese upbringing, she has difficulty pronouncing the 'L' sound.
After multiple discussions, the husband suggested sp*ech therapy, which the OP resisted. They eventually agreed on the name Hana.
Now that they are home from the hospital, the OP discovered her husband calls the baby Lily when they are alone, treating it as a private nickname.
When confronted, he dismissed her concerns, leading the OP to question if she is overreacting or if his actions const*tute a broken promise and a betrayal of their agreement.
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The original poster is currently feeling betrayed and disrespected because her husband is unilaterally using the name Lily for their daughter, despite a clear agreement to use Hana.
This action directly conflicts with the agreed-upon decision and touches upon the OP's specific vulnerability regarding her ability to pronounce the name Lily.
The central debate hinges on whether a private nickname that v***ates a mutual naming agreement warrants serious concern, or if the husband is ent*tled to use a name he loves, even if it is only in private settings.
Is the OP right to feel that this private usage is a breach of trust, or is the husband justified in using a personal nickname?
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