AITA for letting my daughter buy her own bras and not checking?
A father’s simple act of kindness to support his daughter’s growing independence spirals into an unexpected storm of judgment and anger.
In a moment meant to celebrate her confidence and maturity, he is met instead with accusations that threaten to fracture their already fragile family dynamics.
Caught between protecting his daughter and navigating harsh criticism, he faces the painful reality of how misunderstood intentions can ignite conflict.
This story reveals the delicate balance of parenting through adolescence, where every choice is scrutinized and every gesture carries weight far beyond its intent.
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The Original Poster (OP) is facing intense criticism from his ex-partner regarding a decision made while shopping for his 13-year-old daughter's necessary undergarments.
The core conflict stems from the mother's belief that the OP should have vetted the style of the bras purchased, while the OP maintains that supervising a teenage daughter's bra fitting is inappropriate for a father and that the purchase itself was necessary.
Given the differing views on parental oversight and age-appropriate clothing for a developing teenager, the central question remains: Is it a father's responsibility to inspect the specific style (e.g., lace vs.
plain) of necessary undergarments his teenage daughter purchases, or does this level of privacy and autonomy fall outside the scope of expected parental supervision in this context?
Commenters Came in Hot with Their Takes:
The crowd poured into the comments, bringing a blend of heated opinions, solid advice, and a few reality checks along the way.