AITA for not going to wedding after agreeing to be best man?
He had always believed their bond was unbreakable, forged in the fires of childhood and countless shared memories. When his best friend asked him to be the best man, it felt like the ultimate honor—a testament to years of loyalty and trust.
With hope and excitement, he poured his heart into planning the perfect bachelor party, determined to make this milestone unforgettable, only to find himself an outsider in a crowd he barely knew.
The painful truth settled like a cold shadow: despite his efforts, he wasn’t the friend his best friend wanted by his side on the big day.
The realization that their closeness had drifted, that he no longer held the place he thought he did, shattered som**hing deep inside.
Choosing dignity over despair, he quietly stepped away, grappling with the ache of a friendship that no longer fit the story he had imagined.
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The original poster (OP) experienced a significant reversal of roles after investing substantial time and money into planning the bachelor party, leading to feelings of being unappreciated when the friend decided to replace him as best man.
The OP reacted by withdrawing completely from the wedding attendance, asserting that adult friendships do not impose unbreakable obligations despite past history.
Does the OP's decision to withdraw from the wedding as retaliation for feeling undervalued justify damaging a long-standing friendship, or did the friend and his fiancée v***ate the implied trust es**blished by the best man commitment when they chose a different friend based on perceived social alignment?
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