AITA for leaving my husband after years of putting his friends and family above me, and finding out he might not even want our baby?
The user, a 31-year-old woman, details the slow deterioration of her eight-year relationship, culminating in her marriage of five years to Evan (34M).
Initially, she believed she had found an attentive and supportive partner, but over time, Evan began prioritizing his high school friends and his difficult mother over their shared life and responsibilities.
This pattern of neglect involved Evan frequently canceling plans for trivial reasons related to his friends and failing to defend the user against his mother's consistent disrespect.
The situation reached a crisis point when Evan, while the user was six months pr****nt, expressed uncertainty about being ready for fatherhood, citing discussions with his friends as validation for his feelings, leading the user to leave him and initiate divorce proceedings.
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The original poster (OP) found herself in an untenable emotional position where her husband consistently demonstrated that his friendships and his mother's approval held more weight than his commitment to her or their unborn child.
Her decision to leave was driven by the realization that she could not rely on him, especially given his last-minute absence during a personal health scare while she was pr****nt.
The central conflict pits the OP's need for a reliable partner and father figure against Evan's pattern of prioritizing external social circles and avoiding significant adult responsibility.
The question remains whether his sustained pattern of deflection and external validation justifies the OP's immediate action to dissolve the marriage for the safety and s**bility of herself and her baby.
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