AITA for refusing to plan my son/DIL wedding because my future DIL is always late
A seasoned wedding planner, newly retired, faces a heartbreaking dilemma when her son and future daughter-in-law ask her to orchestrate their wedding.
Despite her expertise and past success, she refuses, not out of stubbornness but from a deep-seated frustration with the future bride’s chronic lateness—a habit that feels like a personal betrayal and a threat to the harmony she once cherished.
Caught between love for her family and the desire to maintain her dignity, she stands firm against the cultural excuse that excuses tardiness, knowing that this flaw could tarnish not only the wedding day but their entire relationship.
Her refusal is not just about time, but about respect, boundaries, and the painful realization that some differences may be too great to overcome.
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The original poster (OP) is refusing to use their professional sk**ls to plan their son's wedding, citing a deep-seated frustration with the future daughter-in-law's consistent tardiness.
This refusal has caused significant anger, as the OP feels justified in protecting their time and professional standards, while the couple views this as an unfair rejection and lack of support.
Should the OP prioritize their personal boundaries regarding punctuality, even if it means declining a significant role in their child's wedding, or was declining the task based on a habit, rather than a concrete threat to the wedding ex****ion, an unfair slight to the couple's request?
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