AITA for not wanting to share my son?
In the quiet aftermath of a devastating loss, a mother clings to a fragile piece of her son—a necklace holding his ashes, a daily reminder of love and grief intertwined.
Each heartbeat echoes the absence of her little boy, a pain made sharper by those who chose distance over presence, leaving her to navigate sorrow in solitude.
When her Aunt, once distant and absent in the darkest days, demands a part of her son’s remains for herself, the mother faces a heart-wrenching clash between memory and belonging.
Bound by love and loss, she stands firm, guarding the fragments of her child that remain, unwilling to share the precious pieces that keep him close to her forever.
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The original poster (OP) is navigating a deeply painful situation following the loss of her young son, centering the conflict around the physical remains of the child.
Her core emotional position is to maintain complete possession of the ashes, symbolized by the necklace she wears daily, as a necessary measure for her continued grieving process.
This directly clashes with her aunt's expectation of sharing the ashes as a means of connection, an expectation made more complicated by the aunt's past failure to visit the child when he was ill or attend his funeral.
Given the OP's profound commitment to keeping all of her son's remains with her versus the aunt's perception that she has a right to a portion because she too lost family, the central question remains: Does the immediate parent have the sole, non-negotiable right to determine the disposition of a deceased child's remains, even when close relatives feel ent*tled to a token of remembrance due to their own emotional investment?
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