AITAH for kicking my sister out of my baby shower because she called me old and selfish ?
The original poster (OP), a 34-year-old woman, and her 31-year-old sister married around the same time seven years ago. The sister immediately focused on having children and now has four kids.
In contrast, the OP and her husband decided to prioritize buying a house, traveling, and building savings before starting a family, and the OP is currently pr****nt.
The OP has been suffering severely from hyperemesis gravidarum (HG) during her pregnancy, receiving support from her mother-in-law, husband, and employer, who allowed her to work from home.
During her baby shower, the sister publicly criticized the OP for her difficult pregnancy, suggesting it was the result of waiting too long and prioritizing other things, which led to the OP angrily telling her to leave. Now, the OP is left wondering if she owes her sister an apology for that confrontation.
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The original poster is in a difficult position, feeling justified in defending herself against deeply hurtful and dismissive comments about her health struggles, yet also facing external pressure from her mother to apologize for reacting strongly.
The central conflict revolves around the sister's perceived sense of martyrdom and comparison versus the OP's right to express her pain without judgment regarding her personal timeline for starting a family.
The question remains whether the OP's immediate, emotional response to being told she deserved her illness was an overreaction, or if the sister's repeated pattern of insensitive commentary justified the demand that she leave.
Should the OP apologize for reacting to the insult, or was the sister's behavior the definitive cause that absolves the OP of apology?
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