AITA for telling my mom we haven’t had a good relationship in a long time and I wanted to go live with my dad?
She once shared a close bond with her mother, a connection that slowly unraveled the moment her mother married Gary.
In a household where her stepbrother Ian's desires overshadowed her own, she became an invisible casualty—her needs overlooked, her dreams sacrificed, and her place in her own home diminished to an afterthought.
Caught between loyalty and longing, she found solace in her father’s distant but unwavering support.
As he returns home, offering a lifeline and a chance at belonging, she stands at a crossroads, yearning for a family where she is truly seen and valued.
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The original poster (OP) is experiencing significant emotional distress due to years of being marginalized and having her needs consistently overridden to favor her stepbrother.
Her decision to seek separation by moving in with her father stems from a broken relationship with her mother, who prioritized her new marriage and her stepson's desires over her daughter's well-being.
The central conflict lies between the OP asserting her fundamental right to be valued and her mother's desperate attempt to maintain the status quo and prevent separation.
Considering the es**blished pattern of neglect and sacrifice forced upon the OP, is her action to legally pursue living with her father an appropriate act of self-preservation, or is she being unfair by causing extreme emotional and legal disruption for her mother and step-father?
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