AITA for not moving back in with my mom and hanging up on her when she called me crying that she missed me and wanted me back?
The original poster (OP), who was 17 when their father passed away at age 11, discusses their mother's serious relationship with Dan, a single father of two young children (ages 4 and 6).
After dating for nearly two years, the mother and Dan moved in together three months prior to the incidents. Conflict arose after two specific incidents in one week.
First, the OP returned home to find their room completely trashed by the children, including visible evidence of the 4-year-old having soiled clothes in the room.
When the OP expressed anger and demanded the children be kept out of their space, both the mother and Dan dismissed their feelings, stating the children were too young to be held responsible.
A week later, the children again damaged the OP's room, this time breaking a chair and wrecking a cherished photo of the OP and their deceased father.
Feeling disrespected and enraged, the OP decided to leave, only to be physically blocked from exiting by Dan, who claimed the OP leaving would devastate the mother.
The OP subsequently left to stay with their grandparents, questioning if they were wrong for their reaction.
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The original poster is currently experiencing significant distress due to a perceived lack of respect for their personal space and belongings, especially following the destruction of a sentimental item.
The central conflict involves the OP's need for boundaries and privacy within their home environment versus the mother and Dan's expectation that the OP should tolerate the disruptive behavior of the younger children due to their age.
The core issue for debate is whether the OP was justified in leaving the home following the repeated boundary v***ations and the active obstruction by Dan when attempting to leave, or if the OP's departure was an overly drastic reaction to a situation caused by young children.
Readers must weigh the OP's need for personal sanctuary against the dynamics of the blended family structure.
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