AITA for ending my engagement over him having a sleepover with his ex
She believed in their love, counting down the days until their wedding, only to be left alone in their apartment, heart pounding with worry as he vanished into the night at his ex’s house.
The silence on his phone was deafening, each unanswered call a painful echo of betrayal. Her trust shattered not by in***elity, but by the cold reality of being second to his past, she chose to walk away rather than live in the shadow of uncertainty.
When he finally returned, his anger clashed with her heartbreak, dismissing her pain as mere overreaction. To him, it was exhaustion; to her, it was a breaking point.
Their worlds collided in misunderstanding, revealing how fragile promises can be when trust is broken and love no longer feels safe.
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The Original Poster (OP) felt deeply worried and disrespected by their fiancé's decision to stay overnight at his ex-partner's house without communication, leading them to end the engagement.
The central conflict lies between the OP's need for security, clear communication, and fidelity expectations within a committed relationship, and the fiancé's insistence that his actions were innocent, driven by exhaustion, and that the OP's reaction was an overreaction.
Was the OP justified in immediately ending a two-year engagement based on the fiancé sleeping over at his ex's home and failing to communicate for hours, or did the fiancé's actions, while poor judgment, warrant less severe consequences given his explanation about being with his children? Should commitment and trust outweigh perceived boundary v***ations in co-parenting situations?
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