AITAH for leaving my date alone and drunk in a bar?
The user, a 25-year-old man, matched online with a 25-year-old woman and they planned to meet for food and drinks around 6:30 PM. Upon arrival, the user found she was already at the bar drinking.
After they sat down, she drank quite a bit and showed little interest in eating, leading the user to order appetizers for himself.
When the user noticed her sp*ech slurring, he decided it was time to leave and paid the check, offering her a shared Uber ride.
Although she initially agreed to one more drink across the street, she became loud and obnoxious after consuming more alcohol.
After he insisted on leaving multiple times and refused her suggestion to go back to his place, she became angry and told him to stop telling her what to do before he left her at the bar.
The user is now struggling with whether his decision to leave her was wrong, given his protective instincts toward his sisters.
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The central conflict revolves around the user's perceived responsibility for his date's intoxication and behavior versus his right to set personal boundaries and leave an uncomfortable situation.
While the user felt compelled by protective instincts (like those he has for his sisters) to ensure her safety, the date actively resisted his suggestions and became verbally aggressive when he tried to enforce an end to the evening.
Did the user abandon his date in a vulnerable state by leaving her at the bar after she refused his offers to help her get home, or was he justified in prioritizing his own departure once she became verbally abusive and refused all reasonable attempts to secure her safe transport?
This requires weighing the duty of care in a first date situation against the right to disengage from escalatingly difficult behavior.
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