AITA for not staying home from my Eras Tour stop because my SIL’s mom d*ed?
Anticipation and excitement had been building for months as she prepared for the Eras tour, a celebration of a fandom that had shaped her life since the days of Red.
Every detail was planned—the outfit, the friendship bracelets—symbols of joy and connection, ready to be unleashed in a night of music and memories. But grief crashed in unexpectedly, casting a shadow over her carefully crafted plans.
When her sister-in-law Grace shared the devastating news of her mother’s pa*sing, empathy and love took precedence.
Sleepless nights spent in quiet support replaced the thrill of the concert, and the weight of loss challenged the very idea of leaving for a celebration in the midst of sorrow.
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The original poster (OP) is facing a conflict between honoring a significant, long-planned personal commitment and responding to the immediate, profound grief of their sister-in-law (SIL) who has just lost her mother.
The OP demonstrated support by immediately providing practical a*sistance, such as cooking and household ch**es, but ultimately prioritized attending the concert, leading to harsh criticism from the SIL.
Given the disparity between the OP's need for personal fulfillment after months of anticipation and the SIL's acute, isolated emotional crisis, was the OP's decision to proceed with the trip an acceptable prioritization of self-care, or did the timing and context demand temporary postponement out of familial duty?
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