AITA for telling my mom her husband is just the guy she cheated on my dad with?
The original poster (OP), a 27-year-old woman, recounts the difficult family history stemming from her mother's affair, which led to her parents' divorce when the OP was 10.
The affair became public when the mistress's husband showed up at their home, causing a major scene.
The OP maintained a strained relationship with her mother and actively rejected the role of the affair partner's husband as a father figure, feeling insulted by his attempts to step in.
Years later, following the death of her father, the OP excluded her mother and her husband from the funeral, leading to further conflict, which now continues as she prepares for her wedding.
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The OP currently stands firm in her decision regarding who will stand in for her father at her wedding, viewing this choice as a necessary consequence of her mother's past actions and the resulting disruption to her family structure.
The central debate is whether the OP is being excessively vindictive by using her wedding role to define the affair partner's relationship to her, or if she is justified in enforcing boundaries based on the historical trauma inflicted upon her and her late father.
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