AITA for telling my boyfriend I wouldn't pretend to be Japanese to impress his old high school friends ?
The user, a 23-year-old Chinese woman living in America, describes a request made by her 23-year-old American white boyfriend regarding their introduction to his high school friends at an upcoming event.
Her boyfriend asked her to subtly present herself as Japanese to his male friends, even though she normally avoids specifying her Chinese background to people.
When she refused to pretend to be Japanese, her boyfriend still wanted her to attend, but now seemed unhappy about it, leading the user to question if her stance makes her the a*shole.
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The user is facing a conflict between her desire to be known for who she is, rather than her national origin, and her boyfriend's explicit request for her to misrepresent her ident*ty to his friends for reasons he attributed to their perception.
Is the user justified in refusing to participate in a misrepresentation of her ethnicity to her boyfriend's friends, or should she have agreed to this potentially one-time request to support him?
From Supportive to Savage: The Crowd Responds:
Support, sarcasm, and strong words — the replies covered it all. This one definitely got people talking.