AITA if I were to tell my husband that I don't want to have any relationship nor help him care for the child he fathered with his lover?

Embarrassed_Ask8092 1727 comments

She never imagined the life she built with her high school sweetheart could shatter so suddenly.

After two decades of love, trust, and raising four beautiful adopted children together, she finds herself lost and broken, grappling with a betrayal that feels unimaginable.

The pain is raw, and her heart aches with the weight of disbelief and exhaustion. Their story was one of resilience and devotion, a testament to fighting for love through every challenge.

But now, as her world crumbles, she is left questioning everything she thought she knew, struggling to find strength in the midst of heartbreak and confusion.

AITA if I were to tell my husband that I don't want to have any relationship nor help him care for the child he fathered with his lover?
‘AITA if I were to tell my husband that I don't want to have any relationship nor help him care for the child he fathered with his lover?’

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Internet Users Didn’t Hold Back:

Support, sarcasm, and strong words — the replies covered it all. This one definitely got people talking.

The original poster is experiencing deep emotional turmoil, feeling betrayed, numb, and resentful following the revelation of her husband's nine-year-old in***elity and the sudden demand to parent the resulting child.

The central conflict lies between her moral obligation to the innocent child and her understandable desire to reject the living consequence of her husband's secret betrayal, especially given the husband's unilateral decision-making about integrating the child into their family.

Should the OP prioritize her emotional well-being and the s**bility of her existing family unit by refusing to take on responsibility for a child born from adultery, or is the moral imperative to protect and provide for this unexpected, innocent child, regardless of the circumstances of his conception, the higher priority?