AITAH for refusing to spend my work bonus on my sister in law’s wedding?
At just 27, she had carved out a small but precious victory—a bonus meant solely for her child’s future, a shield against the hardships she once faced.
But that quiet hope was shattered, not by fate, but by those closest to her, who saw her hard-earned money as an endless well to draw from without consent or grat*tude.
What was meant to be a simple act of love and foresight twisted into a suffocating trap of expectations and demands, leaving her to grapple with betrayal and the painful realization that her sacrifice had been taken for granted.
In the tangled web of family obligations, her dreams for her child risked being drowned out by the selfish needs of others.
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The original poster (OP) is facing significant conflict after deciding to use a work bonus exclusively for their son's savings, a decision they shared and agreed upon with their husband.
This principled stand directly challenged the immediate financial demands of the husband's family regarding his sister's wedding, leading to intense pressure, accusations of selfishness, and ultimately, social exclusion from the event.
Is the OP justified in prioritizing a pre-es**blished, long-term financial goal for their child over immediate, large, and unexpected family spending requests, even when that refusal leads to severe familial backlash and isolation?
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