AITA for telling my sister my feelings about her have not changed after she confronted me for telling her fiance the truth?
Seven years ago, the original poster (OP) discovered that her sister was having an affair with her then-husband.
The OP caught them together while they were still married and subsequently ended both relationships, divorcing her husband and completely cu***ng her sister out of her life.
The sister and the ex-husband continued their relationship for a few years and had a child together.
Despite the sister attempting to reconcile five times, the OP repeatedly refused, expressing deep unforgiveness and even wishing ill upon her sister regarding her relationship with the ex-husband. The OP maintained strict no-contact, even refusing to meet the sister's child.
Recently, the sister's fiancé confronted the OP for not meeting him, leading to a direct confrontation where the sister demanded reconciliation, prompting the OP to state clearly that her feelings had not changed and she would not care if her sister d*ed.
This stance has caused conflict with her parents and aunt, leading the OP to question if her actions were too harsh.
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The original poster is currently facing strong disapproval from her family because she has maintained seven years of absolute no-contact and expressed extreme finality regarding reconciliation, including stating she would not care if her sister d*ed.
The central conflict lies between the OP's justified need to protect herself from the profound betrayal she experienced and her family's expectation that the pa*sage of time mandates forgiveness and acceptance, especially toward a sibling.
The core question for debate is whether the OP's steadfast refusal to forgive, coupled with her harsh final words, is an appropriate boundary protecting her emotional well-being after severe betrayal, or if it crosses a line into excessive cruelty that undermines necessary family ties.
Readers must consider where the line between self-preservation and unforgiving hostility should be drawn.
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