My wife is upset that I gave away our children's Inherentiece (also gave mine away) to my sister who was the primary caregiver for our mother. AITAH?

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For over a decade, the sister stood as the unwavering pillar of strength, sacrificing her own dreams to tend to their ailing mother.

While the world moved on, she bore the silent weight of caregiving, her devotion a quiet testament to love and resilience, even as the family dispersed across states and new lives blossomed.

When their mother pa*sed, the inheritance was divided as per the will, favoring the next generation, yet the sister’s years of sacrifice seemed overlooked.

In an act of profound generosity, one sibling chose to give her a substantial sum, acknowledging that while money can never repay time lost or sacrifices made, it might offer a fresh start—a bittersweet recognition of love, duty, and the complexities of family bonds.

My wife is upset that I gave away our children's Inherentiece (also gave mine away) to my sister who was the primary caregiver for our mother. AITAH?
‘My wife is upset that I gave away our children's Inherentiece (also gave mine away) to my sister who was the primary caregiver for our mother. AITAH?’

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A Wave of Opinions Just Hit the Thread:

What started as a simple post quickly turned into a wildfire of opinions, with users chiming in from all sides.

The original poster (OP) made a unilateral decision to give away their entire inheritance, including the portion designated for their children, to their sister as compensation for twelve years of caregiving.

The central conflict arises because the OP's spouse strongly disagrees with this decision, particularly regarding the children's money, and feels excluded from the choice.

Is the OP justified in prioritizing their sister's significant need and past sacrifice over the es**blished will and their spouse's expectations for their children's financial future, or did this decision v***ate the partnership agreement within the marriage?