AITAH for kicking out my dad’s girlfriend after she made a comment about me being r***st because I wear a bonnet when I sleep?
The original poster (OP), who has thin, curly white hair, struggled significantly with severe bedhead, including knots and frizz, every morning.
After mentioning this issue over the summer, the OP's Black best friend gifted them a satin bonnet for their birthday, noting that she wears one nightly. The OP found that wearing the bonnet drastically improved their hair management.
However, the situation escalated when the OP's father's new girlfriend, whom the OP barely knew, saw them wearing the bonnet.
The girlfriend reacted strongly, accusing the OP of racism and cultural appropriation, leading to a heated argument that ended with the OP asking both the girlfriend and their father to leave their apartment, causing them to cut their visit short. Now, the OP is facing nonstop pressure from their father to apologize to the girlfriend.
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The core conflict revolves around the OP prioritizing their practical need and the positive feedback from their best friend over the strong, emotionally charged accusation of cultural appropriation made by a relative acquaintance.
The OP feels justified in defending their choice and asking the guests to leave their home, despite their father's disappointment and insistence on an apology.
The central question is whether the OP was wrong to immediately eject their father and his girlfriend from their apartment following the argument, or if the girlfriend's strong reaction justified the swift removal.
Readers must weigh the OP's right to comfort and boundary-setting in their own home against the severity of the emotional response generated by the perceived offense.
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