AITA for refusing to drive my ex boyfriend to the ER
After four years of love and betrayal, she finally found the courage to break free on New Year’s Day, only to be haunted by his relentless calls and unwanted visits.
Each ignored message and firm boundary seemed to fuel his desperation, dragging her back into a storm of pain and guilt she never asked for.
When he called in the d**d of night, claiming unbearable pain and pleading for help, her heart wavered but her resolve didn’t.
She refused to be pulled back into his chaos, only to later learn the depth of his suffering—and now, the weight of his illness threatens to crush her with a guilt she never deserved.
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The original poster is grappling with significant guilt after refusing to help her ex-boyfriend seek medical attention following their breakup due to his in***elity.
Her refusal stemmed from a lack of trust due to his persistent contact attempts after setting clear boundaries, which ultimately left him to seek care alone for a serious condition, pancreat*tis.
Does the OP hold responsibility for prioritizing her emotional safety and es**blished boundaries over the ex-partner's immediate, urgent medical needs, or was her refusal an inappropriate response given the severity of his health crisis?
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