AITA for refusing to give my late sons child money if his Stepdad adopts him?

Existing_Presence221 1820 comments

Grief reshaped their lives the moment they lost their son, a bright young man taken too soon. In the shadow of that devastating loss, they discovered a new life—his unborn child—binding them forever to a future they never anticipated.

Their love and commitment to this grandson became a beacon of hope amidst the sorrow, a promise to honor their son’s legacy through unwavering support. But as time pa*sed, new complexities emerged, testing the fragile balance they had built.

The arrival of Lissa’s husband brought with it unexpected demands and conversations, challenging the family’s generosity and the boundaries of their sacrifice.

What began as an act of love now faced the harsh realities of changing relationships and shifting expectations.

AITA for refusing to give my late sons child money if his Stepdad adopts him?
‘AITA for refusing to give my late sons child money if his Stepdad adopts him?’

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Users didn’t stay quiet — they showed up in full force, mixing support with sharp criticism. From calling out bad behavior to offering real talk, the comments lit up fast.

The original poster (OP) is experiencing profound grief following the loss of their son and is now facing a deep conflict regarding their relationship with their grandson, Dave Jr.

The OP's initial generous support toward the child's mother, Lissa, has soured because Lissa and her new husband, Allen, wish to formalize adoption, relocate, and effectively erase the memory of the OP's deceased son from the child's life.

This clashes directly with the OP's desire to maintain a familial connection rooted in their son's memory.

The central question is whether the OP's refusal to continue financial support and their harsh dismissal of Lissa and Allen are justified reactions to the proposed erasure of their son's legacy, or if these actions const*tute an unfair imposition on the child's new s**ble family structure.

Should the OP prioritize their emotional need to honor their son over the s**bility offered by the proposed adoption and relocation?