AITA My parents are forcing me to pay for my brothers grad school using money they never told me about
She had fought tooth and nail for every dollar, carving out a life of self-reliance and quiet pride.
Paying off her student loans alone was a victory hard-won, a testament to her grit in a world that expected her to stand on her own from the very start.
Now, her brilliant younger brother stood on the cusp of a future she wished she could have had—one filled with promise and possibility.
But the weight of his dreams threatened to crush them all, as their parents turned to her for help, pulling her into a struggle between duty, sacrifice, and the hope of family.
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The original poster (OP) is experiencing significant emotional distress due to her parents reallocating a surprise, previously undisclosed fund, originally designated for her future wedding, to finance her brother's prestigious graduate stud*es.
Her conflict stems from a deep sense of unfairness, as she achieved financial independence without support and is now seeing resources intended for her future redirected to cover her brother's immediate educational costs, despite her own sacrifices.
Given the parents' unilateral decision to repurpose a fund intended for the OP without her consent, should the OP demand the funds be returned or redirected to her stated goals (homeownership/past education costs), or is the parents' right to manage their a*sets to support the child with the most immediate, high-potential need the overriding ethical consideration?
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