AITA for walking out of my ILs with my daughter and leaving my husband behind because they all ganged up on me to name our son one of the family names?
The user and her husband have been married for five years and share a two-year-old daughter, with another child expected soon.
When they first met, the husband mentioned family names for boys that they were encouraged to use, a practice the user disliked, which aligned with the husband's own preference, as he primarily uses his middle name to maintain his own ident*ty.
After learning they were expecting a boy, the husband changed his stance and began pushing to use one of the three family names, despite the user's initial agreement against obligatory naming.
When the user expressed unhappiness, the conflict escalated through weeks of discussions where the husband attempted to compromise by suggesting name pairings, but the user felt pressured, leading her to pause the discussions entirely.
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The central conflict revolves around the husband's sudden change in priority, shifting from respecting his wife's wishes to prioritizing his family's happiness by insisting on using family names for their son, even after the wife expressed strong opposition.
This pressure culminated in a family event where the wife felt ganged up on and unsupported by her husband, causing her to leave abruptly.
The debate centers on whether the wife was justified in leaving the family gathering due to the group pressure and her husband's lack of support, or if her reaction was an overreaction to a disagreement over naming conventions. Should parental autonomy outweigh familial tradition in this matter?
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