AITAH for pretending I didn't know my ex?
The Original Poster (OP), a 29-year-old woman, was involved in a secret, two-year romantic relationship with a man named Shane (27 M). This relationship was kept hidden, and Shane lived with the OP during this time.
The core conflict began when the OP returned home to find that Shane had moved out, taking all his belongings without any warning. Shane immediately cut off all communication, blocking the OP on her phone and Snapchat, effectively ghosting her.
The OP later learned he began a public relationship with another woman, Jess. Three weeks ago, the OP heard that Shane's engagement to Jess ended due to in***elity and that his grandfather had recently pa*sed away.
When the OP recently encountered Shane at a grocery store, she pretended not to know him, leading to a confrontation with a mutual friend who called her cruel because Shane is going through a difficult period. The central question is whether the OP was wrong for her reaction after being ghosted.
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The OP is currently navigating the emotional fallout from a significant betrayal: being kept secret during a two-year relationship and then abruptly abandoned.
Her recent action in the grocery store was a direct, albeit delayed, response to this severe mistreatment, contrasting sharply with the recent news of Shane's personal hardships.
The debate centers on whether the OP owed Shane any consideration or kindness given his current struggles, despite his past actions of ending their relationship through ghosting and secrecy.
Readers must consider if past relational harm negates any obligation to be compa*sionate in the present moment.
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