AITA for not telling my parents I got my tubes tied
The original poster (OP), a 27-year-old woman, recently gave birth to her fourth child via a Cesarean section last month. During the procedure, she also had her tubes tied, an action that her 27-year-old husband fully supported before the surgery.
When her father and stepmother visited yesterday to meet the new baby, the OP mentioned the tubal ligation.
Her parents reacted with shock, calling the decision 'disgraceful' for not informing them beforehand and questioning what would happen if her husband later wanted more children.
After the OP explained that both she and her husband agreed on being done with more children, her parents left early, leaving the OP wondering if she was wrong for making the decision without consulting them first.
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The central conflict lies between the OP's decision, made jointly with her husband to manage their family size, and her parents' expectation that she should have sought their approval or at least informed them before undergoing a permanent medical procedure.
Considering the OP and her husband are aligned on this permanent choice for their family planning, was the OP wrong to proceed with the tubal ligation without informing her parents in advance, or do her parents have an undue expectation regarding decisions made within the OP's marriage?
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NTA.