AITA for telling my ex's sterile affair partner to have her own daughter if she wants to share cheerleading with one?
A woman (40F), referred to as OP, is dealing with the aftermath of her divorce from her ex-husband (44M), which occurred after he cheated on her with a woman named Jen (42F).
The OP retains primary custody of their young children, while the ex has them six days a month under a fixed schedule.
The ex and Jen, who are now together, allegedly told the OP that Jen is sterile and cannot have children, seemingly to encourage the OP to allow Jen to bond more closely with the children.
The current conflict centers on Jen's strong desire for the OP's ten-year-old daughter to join a cheerleading group she volunteers with. When the daughter expressed disinterest, the OP intervened to stop the pressure from both the ex and Jen.
This resulted in verbal confrontation with the ex via a messaging app and a direct, emotionally charged confrontation with Jen in public.
The OP is now questioning whether her firm stance against this forced bonding activity and her blunt response to Jen were justified.
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The OP is firmly positioned between protecting her daughter's autonomy and managing the intense, boundary-v***ating demands of her ex-husband and his new partner.
The core conflict lies in the expectation set by the ex and Jen that the OP must facilitate their desired familial role, despite the painful history of the divorce, and the OP's commitment to prioritizing her children's wishes over this external pressure.
The central question for consideration is where the balance of parental rights and necessary boundaries should lie in this post-divorce arrangement.
Should the OP continue to enforce strict separation and veto any joint activities that involve Jen, or is there a point where accommodating the children's relationship with their father's partner becomes a necessary, albeit uncomfortable, aspect of co-parenting, even when the motivation seems rooted in Jen's personal desires?
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NTA.