AITA for costing a car salesmen his commission?
She walked into the dealership with quiet confidence, ready to claim the luxury car she had earned after years of hard work.
Yet from the moment they arrived, the salesman’s eyes never truly met hers, fixating instead on her boyfriend as if she were invisible—her ownership dismissed, her voice unheard.
The sting of being sidelined in her own moment was sharp and unmistakable. Despite her clear declaration that the car was hers to buy, every question bounced around them like a cruel game, directed away from her, undermining her authority.
Each pa*sing minute deepened the silent anger within her, a fierce determination building beneath the surface to reclaim her rightful place and shatter the quiet prejudice that sought to diminish her.
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The original poster (OP) faced significant frustration due to a salesperson repeatedly ignoring her as the buyer and directing all attention and communication toward her boyfriend, despite her clear financial involvement and intentions.
Her central conflict involved balancing her justified anger over this perceived s*xism and disrespect against the ethical consideration raised by a friend: that she leveraged the first salesperson's work only to secure a better deal or service from a different salesperson the next day, effectively denying him the commission he had earned through effort.
Was the OP justified in prioritizing her need for a respectful and acknowledged transaction by taking her business to a different salesperson after experiencing blatant bias, or did this action unfairly penalize the first salesman for his outdated behavior when he had, in fact, completed the preparatory work for the sale?
Should the focus be solely on the OP's right to a positive experience, or on the professional expectation to provide direct feedback when a service provider fails basic ethical standards?
Strong Takes and Sharper Words from the Crowd:
Support, sarcasm, and strong words — the replies covered it all. This one definitely got people talking.