AITA for refusing to keep ‘teaching’ my boyfriend basic life sk**ls?
In the fragile dance of newfound independence, a young couple embarks on a shared journey of living together, where love meets the harsh realities of daily life.
She steps into the role of teacher and caretaker, hopeful and patient, while he clings to the comfort of a sheltered past, struggling to bridge the gap between dependence and self-reliance.
What began as a tender attempt to nurture growth soon reveals a deeper struggle—a quiet imbalance where effort and expectation collide.
The promise of partnership turns into a test of patience, as she shoulders more than her fair share, questioning if love alone can teach the sk**ls that life demands.
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The original poster (OP) is feeling exhausted and frustrated because her 25-year-old boyfriend, raised in a highly dependent environment, appears to be using feigned incompetence to avoid household responsibilities she expects to share.
The central conflict lies between the OP's clear need for an equal partnership regarding ch**es and the boyfriend's resistance, which manifests as helplessness and deflection when asked to perform basic tasks.
Is the OP justified in feeling that her boyfriend is intentionally avoiding responsibility by weaponizing his lack of learned sk**ls, or is the boyfriend correct that the OP needs to be significantly more patient and supportive as he learns essential life sk**ls in an adult relationship setting?
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