AITAH for adjusting my boundaries after my new partner tells me he doesn’t give oral
She stepped into a new relationship with hope, vulnerability layered beneath cautious excitement.
But as the nights unfolded, a gnawing discomfort grew—her trust was tested, her boundaries blurred, and the quiet refusal to meet her needs whispered louder than words.
The promise of intimacy felt more like a trap, leaving her questioning not just his faith, but her own worth. In the delicate dance of love and desire, she found herself caught between respect for his beliefs and the sting of her unmet needs.
The weight of unspoken doubts pressed heavily, as she grappled with the fear that her voice might never be truly heard or honored in the very moments meant for connection.
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The original poster (OP) feels upset and used because her partner revealed a religious boundary regarding performing oral s*x only after she had already performed it on him twice.
This conflict is intensified by her feeling that he pressured her on safe s*x boundaries initially and that their s*xual encounters currently focus primarily on his satisfaction, leading her to withdraw from intimacy.
Is the OP justified in feeling used and withdrawing from all s*xual activity due to her partner's inconsistent adherence to boundaries and perceived lack of reciprocity in their s*xual relationship, or should she try to reconcile his stated religious beliefs with the intimacy they have already shared?
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