AITA for making my girlfriend go after her baby daddy for child support and "ruining" his life?
He entered the relationship hopeful, drawn by the promise of connection and a shared future, unaware that love would soon be tangled with betrayal.
When the baby arrived, the undeniable truth shattered illusions—this child was not his, yet his heart wrestled with the decision to stay, to support without surrendering his financial responsibility. In the quiet aftermath, a fragile agreement was forged: he would nurture and care but not pay.
As savings dwindled and realities pressed hard, the lines between friendship, obligation, and survival blurred, leaving them both to navigate the painful complexities of love, truth, and responsibility.
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The original poster (OP) is caught between loving his girlfriend and the child, and his firm boundary regarding financial responsibility, which was initially agreed upon but has now caused significant stress for his partner.
The central conflict arises from the OP's refusal to financially support a child biologically not his, despite offering full participation in caregiving, leading his girlfriend to feel abandoned in her financial needs when the biological father proved unreliable.
Is the OP justified in strictly adhering to the initial agreement, prioritizing his financial autonomy while supporting the child through labor, or should love and commitment to the partner supersede this boundary, requiring him to assume full financial responsibility for the child despite the existence of a biological father?