WIBTA if I tell my stepdaughter and my wife that I don't want to use the investments I made for my late daughter to finance her college education?

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Haunted by the painful loss of his daughter and wife to a relentless genetic condition, a father clings to the memories of what might have been.

The investments he made were meant as a beacon of hope for his late daughter’s future—a future stolen too soon—now poised to transform into a lifeline for others fighting the same battle through a charitable cause.

Yet, a new chapter unfolds with his remarriage and a stepdaughter stepping into the threshold of high school.

Torn between honoring his past and embracing the present, he faces a heart-wrenching dilemma: to fulfill the original promise to his late daughter by aiding others, or to invest in the tangible future of the stepdaughter who now calls him family.

WIBTA if I tell my stepdaughter and my wife that I don't want to use the investments I made for my late daughter to finance her college education?
‘WIBTA if I tell my stepdaughter and my wife that I don't want to use the investments I made for my late daughter to finance her college education?’

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The original poster (OP) is grappling with a significant emotional and financial decision tied to the memory of his late daughter.

His strong desire is to honor her memory by donating funds set aside for her future to a charity supporting children with genetic disorders.

This conflicts directly with his current wife's wish to use the money to secure a financial head start and education fund for their high school-aged stepdaughter.

Given the deeply personal nature of the funds and the conflicting needs of two different children, the central question remains: Is the OP justified in honoring his original intent for the donation, or does his current commitment to his stepdaughter's future outweigh the commitment to the memorialized goal?