AITAH for thinking that marriage counselling is just my wife trying to break up with me through a proxy?
He stands at a crossroads, burdened by his own sense of failure and haunted by the weight of his shortcomings.
Watching the woman he loves rise effortlessly, he is trapped in a cycle of self-doubt and despair, convinced that his flaws are irreparable and that their marriage might be beyond saving.
Yet, beneath his cynicism and resistance lies a desperate hope—a fragile thread that clings to the possibility of healing.
The suggestion of couples counselling, though met with bitterness and fear, may be the lifeline that challenges his self-loathing and offers a chance to rebuild what seems irreparably broken.
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The original poster is experiencing significant self-doubt, viewing himself as the primary source of marital problems due to his unemployment and drinking issue, especially when compared to his wife's success.
His resistance to couples counseling stems from a belief that the issues are insurmountable and that the session would merely serve as a formal process for his wife to initiate a breakup.
Given the husband's perception of being the 'd**d weight' and his fear that counseling will only facilitate a breakup, is it more constructive for him to attend in good faith to address his behaviors, or is his avoidance of the process a justified response to a relationship he already believes is over?
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