AITA for refusing to share my inheritance with my boyfriend after he quit his job for us
The Original Poster (OP) recently received an inheritance of $25,000 from a close grandmother. The OP has specific plans for this money, intending to use it for college, purchasing a car, and future travel.
The conflict began when the OP's boyfriend, who has struggled to maintain steady employment, reacted to the news of the inheritance.
The boyfriend suggested that since the OP now has the money, they should stop worrying about finances and focus on their relationship, implying the funds should be shared.
When the OP firmly stated the money was for personal goals and not to support him, the boyfriend became angry, called the OP selfish, and has since spread negative rumors to mutual friends.
The OP is now struggling with whether to maintain strict financial boundaries or share the inheritance, questioning if they are being unreasonable.
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The OP is experiencing significant conflict between the desire to honor their grandmother's gift by using it for personal advancement and the pressure from their boyfriend to contribute to their shared future, which he seems to define as shared financial support.
The boyfriend's reaction suggests a belief that an inheritance should immediately become joint property, contrasting sharply with the OP's view of the money as personal funds meant for established goals.
The central debate is whether personal financial windfalls, even within a committed relationship, must be shared to demonstrate commitment, or if maintaining clear personal boundaries over such assets is a necessary component of a healthy partnership.
Should the OP adhere to their established plans, or does the boyfriend's definition of a 'real relationship' require an immediate financial sacrifice?