AITA for cancelling our wedding after my fiancée said som**hing disgusting about my little brother?
The poster, a 31-year-old male, and his fiancée, Karen (32F), were planning their wedding for six months out when conflict arose over the guest list.
Karen repeatedly stated she did not want the poster's younger brother, Chad (26M), present, refusing to give a clear reason initially.
The poster insisted his brother's attendance was non-negotiable due to their extremely close bond, formed when they had to rely on each other growing up.
When pressed again, Karen stated she did not want a "f*ggot" at her wedding because her family disapproved of Chad's lifestyle, leading the poster to immediately end the relationship, return the ring, and ask her to leave his house. The poster is now left wondering if his drastic reaction was justified.
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The original poster (OP) firmly stood by his commitment to protect his brother from h**ophobic remarks made by his fiancée, resulting in the immediate termination of their four-year relationship and the cancellation of the wedding.
The central conflict lies between the OP's absolute defense of his brother against overt prejudice and Karen's expectations regarding acceptable guest lists and acceptable levels of confrontation.
Given the fiancée's use of a deeply offensive slur against the brother and her subsequent lack of sincere apology for the statement itself, was the poster right to end the engagement instantly, or did he overreact to a single instance of hateful language from someone he planned to marry?
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