Aitah for setting a woman straight when she claimed to be my husband's workwife in my house?
The original poster (OP), a 30-year-old woman, is happily married to her husband Nick (35M). They have been together for seven years and are currently trying to conceive.
When the company canceled its Christmas party, Nick's department decided to host a smaller gathering at the OP's home, which she agreed to as she was looking forward to catching up with two former colleagues who were attending.
During the party, one female colleague, Lily, made several passive-aggressive comments about the OP's career and marriage. The conflict peaked when Lily introduced the concept of a "workwife," suggesting she filled that role for Nick.
The OP responded by asserting her position as the legally recognized wife, which seemed to make Lily defensive.
Now, Lily is complaining at the office that the OP was rude and that she was ganged up on, leaving the OP questioning if her reaction was overly harsh and if she caused unnecessary drama.
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The central conflict involves the OP confronting inappropriate boundary crossing by a guest in her home, specifically regarding comments implying a relationship dynamic that threatened her marriage.
The OP reacted defensively to perceived slights and the explicit introduction of the 'workwife' concept, which she felt undermined her marital status.
Now, she is struggling with self-doubt, wondering if her direct response was too aggressive and caused the subsequent office fallout.
The core question for debate is whether the OP's firm, in-the-moment defense of her marriage against inappropriate innuendo constituted rudeness deserving of the resulting office drama, or if her response was a necessary and justified defense against boundary violation.
Should she have ignored the comments to maintain peace, or was standing her ground the correct approach?