AITAH for refusing to help my mother-in-law after feeling like she treats me like a servant, even though my husband’s mad about it?
The user, who is married, describes a growing issue concerning her mother-in-law's frequent and demanding requests for a*sistance.
Initially, the user was happy to help with errands and occasional tasks when they first married, viewing it as normal family support.
However, these requests escalated to the point where the user felt like a full-time a*sistant for non-urgent ch**es like laundry and vacuuming.
When the user expressed that she was already busy with her full-time job and home responsibilities, her mother-in-law used guilt trips, and her husband dismissed the concern by saying she was just lonely.
This culminated when the husband committed the user to cleaning the mother-in-law's attic after an exhausting workday, leading to a confrontation where the user refused, causing her husband to accuse her of being selfish.
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The core conflict lies between the user's need to set boundaries to protect her well-being from feeling used and exploited, and her husband's insistence on prioritizing his mother's needs, viewing any refusal as abandoning family obligations.
The central question is whether the user is being overly selfish by refusing to consistently dedicate her limited free time to non-emergency tasks for her mother-in-law, or if the husband is unfairly enabling an exploitative dynamic that ignores the user's burnout.
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