AITAH for telling my wife I want part of her property if she wants me to quit my job?
A man (34M), who works as a project manager, recounts a significant discussion he had with his wife (33F) regarding their future family plans.
His wife, who owns a successful real estate business started before their marriage, recently stated her desire to start a family soon.
The core of the discussion arose when the wife suggested that upon having children, the husband should quit his job to manage the household, arguing that her higher income justifies him becoming the primary caregiver.
When the husband agreed to consider this major life change, he attached a condition: he requested legal ent*tlement to a share of her business, leading his wife to accuse him of being transactional and his friends to call him greedy.
He is now questioning if his request for financial security in exchange for career sacrifice is being too calculating.
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The original poster (OP) finds himself in a difficult position, balancing his willingness to make a significant personal sacrifice for his family's structure against the need to protect his long-term financial viability.
His request for business equity stems from the reality that giving up his career path directly benefits his wife's growing a*set while leaving him financially dependent should the marriage end.
The central conflict lies between the wife's expectation of unquestioning trust and support for her proposal versus the husband's need for tangible security recognizing the career opportunity cost he would incur.
Should the OP prioritize maintaining the emotional harmony by dropping his demand, or is his request for a stake in the business a necessary boundary for an equitable transition to a single-income household?
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