WIBTA if I quit my job, sell my share in company and retire to be a ski patroler? I would essentially leave my adult kids (18 and 22) to fend for themselves with no way to pay for college. Ex wife as well.
Years of relentless turmoil had worn down a father caught in the crossfire of a fractured family.
His ex-wife’s battle with BPD had turned their shared life into a relentless storm of lies, a**se, and pain, culminating in a bitter divorce that shattered the fragile remnants of trust. Yet, amidst the chaos, one line was never crossed—until now.
The heartbreaking betrayal came not from in***elity, but from the stolen futures of their children. With college savings wiped clean by the ex-wife’s hand, the father’s desperate pleas for his grown kids to act went ignored.
Instead of fighting back, they turned to him for rescue, only to be met with a painful truth: some battles must be faced alone. The cost was more than financial—it was the lost hope and dreams of a brighter tomorrow.
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The original poster (OP) is deeply exhausted by years of conflict stemming from their ex-wife's behavior and the subsequent financial fallout involving their adult children's college funds.
The central conflict lies between the OP's desire to finally sever ties with the emotional and financial burdens imposed by this difficult family situation and the children's expectation that the OP should intervene and resolve the financial damage caused by their mother.
If the OP chooses to leave their current career and financial s**bility to pursue a simpler life, they are effectively abandoning their children to face the consequences of their mother's actions alone.
The core question remains: Is the OP justified in prioritizing their own mental and emotional relief by completely stepping away from their children's immediate crisis, or does a parental obligation still require them to a*sist their dependent adult children in seeking legal resolution against the ex-wife?
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