[Update] I decided not to travel because my wife made reservations for Disney again
The original poster (OP) discussed a recent argument with his wife, Jess, regarding their vacation plans. For their ninth trip during their marriage, the OP wanted to visit a location other than Disney World, which Jess typically favors.
When the OP dismissed Jess's suggestion of Aulani (a Disney resort in Hawaii) immediately, Jess became upset because she felt the OP did not consider her feelings.
The OP now reflects on this reaction, realizing his dismissal was a form of payback for previous trips to Disney World, leading him to question his own behavior.
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The OP acknowledges making a significant mistake by refusing to consider his wife's suggestion without proper research or consideration for her feelings, realizing his initial reaction was unfair retaliation.
Despite this, Jess demonstrated openness by taking initiative and later revealed that her main desire for Aulani was based on its perceived beauty, not just the Disney affiliation.
The central conflict revolves around whether the OP's initial rigid refusal, stemming from past vacation fatigue, was an acceptable way to handle a joint decision, or if his failure to communicate and compromise negated his wife's efforts.
Should the OP have researched the Aulani option first, or was his immediate veto justified if he was genuinely burned out on Disney trips?
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