Ex-husband "requesting" I message in a group-text with his fiancé
The original poster (OP) has been divorced for 12 years and shares two children, aged 15 and 17, with her ex-husband. Contact between the OP and her ex is usually kept to necessary communication only, primarily via text message.
Recently, the OP sent a text to her ex regarding a necessary purchase for their oldest child, intending to prevent the ex from purchasing the same item.
The situation escalated when the OP insisted that her ex include her fiancé in all future communications, stating the fiancé is part of her decision-making process and that excluding them shows a lack of respect.
The ex-husband pushed back, calling the OP childish for her request, leading the OP to question whether she is wrong for refusing to message both parties.
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The core conflict lies in the OP's strong desire to enforce the inclusion of her fiancé in all co-parenting communications, viewing it as a matter of respect and partnership in her current life.
This clashes directly with the ex-husband's persistent refusal and his negative reaction to this boundary, which he perceives as unnecessary complexity or childishness.
Given the history where joint communication has led to combative, two-against-one scenarios, should the OP maintain her demand for her fiancé's inclusion in all texts, or is she escalating the situation by insisting on this specific communication protocol with her ex-spouse?
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