AITA for purposefully sleeping with someone to completely END a 14 year relationship?
The original poster (OP), a 32-year-old female, was broken up with by her 32-year-old male high school sweetheart after 14 years together. The breakup occurred right before her birthday and close to the anniversary of her mother's death.
The reason given by the ex-boyfriend was that their life had become stagnant and he desired more from life, complicated by his involvement in a flirtation with an older married woman at work.
Initially, the breakup was framed as a potential six-month break, during which he claimed he would use the time to improve himself for her sake.
However, this process of dividing shared a*sets escalated when he became violently drunk, leading the OP to file a police report and have him move out.
Following this incident, he insisted that she must remain s*xually exclusive with him for the agreed-upon six months, claiming that sleeping with anyone else would 'taint' her and prevent reconciliation, leading the OP to immediately sleep with someone else.
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The poster is currently grappling with the aftermath of a long-term relationship characterized by sudden termination, emotional manipulation, and a brief episode of physical violence.
Her core conflict centers on whether her immediate decision to engage in a new s*xual encounter, made seemingly in direct response to his controlling ultimatum, was an inappropriate or wrong action on her part.
The central question remains whether the OP's immediate s*xual rea*signment cancels out or compromises her previous feelings, or if her action was a justified response to an unfair condition set by her manipulative ex-partner.
Readers must consider if her desire for immediate agency overrides the complexity of ending a 14-year commitment.
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